We hadn’t heard from Brad Pitt, 53, on his September 2016 and ongoing divorce (split) from Angelina Jolie just yet, until his official interview for GQ Style Magazine appeared today, where he explains for the first time about how his split felt like “a death”. The catalyst for the split was the argument at 35,000 ft aboard a private jet, between him and Angelina’s first adopted son, Maddox, 15, which set the stage for their crumbling relationship to unfold, which had reportedly been on the rocks for a full year before they even announced that they would separate. Now, finally we get to hear it in Brad’s own words on the feelings and reasons building up to the divorce, after spending 11 years together.
What we know so far is that Brad Pitt had lost a ton of weight and he had locked himself up in a friends arts studio in Los Angeles, creating a sculpture to deal with the mourning process, whilst Angelina Jolie took the six children on trips to Cambodia for a film premiere and also visiting London on the way back to LA.
Brad said in the GQ interview that, “splitting from Angelina was like death” and that he’s an “emotional retard” (which sounds all too familiar to us) and that he drank heavily in the lead up to the split, which he said had helped to ruin his marriage.
Now, Brad has revealed that he has gone cold turkey from alcohol and is in therapy and now blames himself for the marriage breakdown, saying, “I hit the lottery and I still would waste my time on those hollow pursuits.”
Hmmm, it sounds like he is only blaming himself here. Remember it takes two to make things go really wrong, but anyway, let’s continue and remember that relationships are a tough job, especially after 11 years.
Brad told GQ, that the “split was self-inflicted….If you love someone, set them free. Now I know what it means, by feeling it. It means to love without ownership. It means expecting nothing in return. It doesn’t mean f*** all to me until, you know. Until you live it.”
When he was asked if the last few months felt like grieving a death, he replied, “Yeah”. Brad opened up about his problems with alcohol during his relationship with Angelina Jolie, which had become a problem during their union.
“I mean, we have a winery. I enjoy wine very, very much, but I just ran it to the ground. I had to step away for a minute. And truthfully I could drink a Russian under the table with his own vodka. I was a professional. I was good.”
Brad Pitt elaborated on using the common substances, but perhaps to an excess with in relation to alcohol, saying, “But me, personally, I can’t remember a day since I got out of college when I wasn’t boozing or had a spliff, or something.”
May we step in here (one moment), sometimes when drinking becomes a problem, there’s an underlying reason of perhaps not being truly happy, or there’s an unresolved relationship issue that can also make you close up emotionally, which then can make you drink more and then this can lead to some form of bad behaviour.
Brad explained further to GQ, “I mean I stopped everything except boozing when I started my family. But even this last year, you know – things I wasn’t dealing with. I was boozing too much. It’s just become a problem.”
Brad now admits to seeing a therapist, rather than use alcohol, apart from his artistic endeavours in that art studio in LA, saying, ‘You know, I just started therapy. I love it. I love it. I went through two therapists to get the right one.’
One can only imagine that having six kids and then balancing a relationship at the same time, must be pretty tough, but Brad said that his work affected his time with the kids, something which he now regrets, “I say that as someone who’s let the work take me away. Kids are so delicate. They absorb everything. They need to have their hand held and things explained. They need to be listened to. When I get in that busy work mode, I’m not hearing. I want to be better at that.”
Brad seems to be pinning the blame a lot on himself, explaining, “It’s hit me smack in the face with our divorce: I gotta be more. I gotta be more for them. I have to show them.”
The shocking split made Brad devastated and he was unable to stay in his Beverly Hills home and needed to get away, so he apparently spent time sleeping on David Fincher’s floor. Surely, the renowned film director David Fincher, would have a spare bedroom, you would think?
Brad explained, “I was really on my back and chained to a system when Child Services was called. After that, we’ve been able to work together to sort this out. We’re both doing our best. I heard one lawyer say, “No one wins in court – it’s just a matter of who gets hurt worse.”
Brad weighed in on divorce proceedings, “You spend a year just focused on building a case to prove your point and why you’re right and why they’re wrong, and it’s just an investment in vitriolic hatred. I just refuse. And, fortunately my partner in this agrees. It’s just very, very jarring for the kids, to suddenly have their family ripped apart.”
Brad seems to be almost through the healing process, “For me this period has really been about looking at my weaknesses and failures and owning my side of the street. I’m an a**hole when it comes to this need for justice. I don’t know where it comes from, this hollow quest for justice for some perceived slight. I can drill on that for days and years.”
Brad speaks about who is to blame, “It’s done me no good whatsoever. It’s such a silly idea, the idea that the world is fair. And this is coming from a guy who hit the lottery, I’m well aware of that. I hit the lottery, and I still would waste my time on those hollow pursuits.”
There have been reports in recent weeks since Angelina Jolie has said that she regrets how she initially treated Brad after the split, so one starts to wonder whether their might be any hope of a reconciliation between the two actors, but only time will tell, as the divorce is still in the process of being resolved.
Brainstain, over and out!
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