Renowned musical artist and overall talented guy, Chris Brown, has opened up about the domestic violence incident with Rihanna for the first time ever. The altercation saw the two stars trade blows inside a parked vehicle on February 8th 2009 at 12:30am in Los Angeles.
The reasons for the fight have never quite been confirmed, but in the documentary Chris Brown: Welcome To My Life he explained in a newly released clip of how his life changed for the worse since the infamous incident, which naturally had a knock-on effect on his career and even in his personal life.
Now it usually takes two people to make a wrong, but of course Chris Brown was crucified by the media, although, not both sides of the story were being told. Since of course, men should never hit women, but at what point is the man silenced and the woman given the benefit of the doubt, that she’s in fact “a saint”, where in reality, she might well be the aggressor as well. How is it that it’s okay for women to hit men, but it isn’t okay for a man to try and defend himself, or even lose his cool? Do guys just have to deal with the screaming, scratching, punching, kicking, yelling and other forms of abuse that some women can bestow onto them? If it got to that point with you, the reader, would you defend yourself? We’d really like to know. If you were out in the open, you could just submit to it or just run away, but inside a car, you can’t just get up and go that easily.
Sometimes when so called perceived power couples, both attractive and both talented, meet with a great passion, love and want, it can overstep all and any consequence of two people that are not just right for each other. Such is the passion of burning desire, attraction and passionate love, that sometimes in the end, it can spell a brewing nightmare for both parties.
Women can be abusive too, you know? However, Chris Brown was brought up on the felony assault charge and was left without a voice, following on from a media witch hunt to name and shame him for his poor choice of actions. Could Rihanna have also been the aggressor in all of this as well? She very much could’ve been, just as much as Chris Brown, or perhaps even more so, but you’ll never hear that side of the story. It’s not media friendly and such.
No one knows what fully went down that night except those two, and we’re not taking sides here. Chris Brown is no angel, but is anybody a really an angel? As the old saying goes, “nobody is perfect”, and it does take two to tango, doesn’t it? It definitely takes two in an unstable relationship to make things go wrong, that’s for sure.
You’d never know what actually happened unless you yourself were there, but fortunately for us, Chris Brown has lifted the lid on what happened in his own words. When he told Rihanna that he had a sexual past with somebody who worked for him, even though he had previously said that he didn’t, he made Rihanna very angry. The fuse was lit at that point. Jealousy and envy can be like a lit match to a haystack, so to speak, for two people in a relationship…
The confession made their relationship turn violent, but it’s sort of leaning towards Rihanna who may just have got overly angry at this revelation. Chris Brown explained, “‘It’s a real fight in the car” and she was “spitting blood and dealt blows”, meaning that she hit him back.
Who hit who first though? Nobody knows, and neither of them will confess their guilt, though clearly Rihanna was indeed full of rage. You wouldn’t like Rihanna when she’s angry. Those closest to her would know this well, and Chris Brown got a full on taste of that anger first hand. Only those behind closed doors can know for sure how irrational and violent somebody gets.
“She hated me.” Chris Brown said, “After that, I tried everything. She didn’t care, she just didn’t trust me after that. From there, it just went downhill because it would be fights, it would be verbal fights, physical fights as well. Mutual sides, it is the first time I get to say anything.”
As we’ve said before, women can be abusive too, depending on the female and her ability to control her anger, which in turn could sometimes make the relationship more abusive than people can give women credit for. Chris was been pushed to the brink of his sanity, and then “BAM”, he snaps under pressure of the over-exhausting abuse.
Not a good move, but given how much he had to endure, and given he may have a short fuse too, something was bound to happen eventually.
Chris said, “I still love Rihanna, but I’m just going to be honest – we would fight each other, she would hit me, I would hit her, but it never was OK. It was always a point to where we talk about it like, “What the f**k are we doing?”‘
Let’s put it this way, anyone with common sense knows that women can be violent too. Women can also act crazy just as well as a man could, and some can also act very irrationally at times. Once you come to experience that yourself and be put in that situation, then you really have no right to jump on the bandwagon of hate and only support one side of such incidents in this story.
Now, Chris came clean about having to use make-up to cover up his marks and bruises from Rihanna, “If I go on stage, I got a scratch on my face, and I’ve got to explain it, like “Oh I fell”, or if you got a scar or a bruise, you got to put make up on. Sh*t, I’m not ever trying to put my hands on any female”.
Clearly we come to learn that provocation and sustaining abuse for a long time, will and could garner a reaction, even though that isn’t right either. Sadly, once people lose their cool, things like this can, will, and have happened…
Chris went on to state, “I felt like a f*cking monster” and he rightly felt that way. On that night this incident occurred, they attended Clive Davis’ party, and even though Chris Brown had told that woman he had a fling with in the past to stop going where he went to, she showed up at the event regardless. This made Rihanna flip her lid.
Chris said, “That changed my life”. He recalls the evening, “I made sure the person I was involved with before, I said hey, you can’t come around to these places. And the person comes in, comes right to the table and says, “Hey what’s up y’all.” And I already know it’s an issue, so I say “Hey cool” and I keep it moving.”
“I look over at Rihanna and she’s bawling, she’s crying.”. Yikes, not a good start to the night. After the situation had seemingly calmed down, Rihanna requested to see Chris’s phone and he insisted that there were no messages from her. Then when Rihanna actually found one when they were inside their Lamborghini, Chris said, “She starts going off, she throws the phone, “I hate you!”, whatever, whatever, she starts hitting me, we’re in a little Lamborghini, you know she’s fighting me.”
“Like I remember she tried to kick me, just like her beating sh*t, but then I really hit her. With a closed fist, like I punched her, and it busted her lip, and when I saw it I was in shock, I was “f**k, why did I hit her like that?”
Now if you’ve ever had somebody try to kick you inside a car with heels or stiletto heels on, anybody would know that this could turn into a deadly weapon, and that’s very dangerous indeed. Chris lost his cool and he hit her back. Something he shouldn’t have done, but he did anyway because he finally snapped.
“So from there she’s… spitting blood in my face, it raised me even more. It’s a real fight in the car, and we driving in the street. I’m like “yo, we tripping, what the f**k, what are we doing?”
Rihanna tried to grab the phone in the moving vehicle and Chris would not give it to her, and as he pulled over into Hancock Park, he told her: “I’m just trying to resolve the situation, I’m not trying to fight”.
“She takes the keys out of the car… and fakes it like she throws them out of the window” which left him looking for the keys in the park. He continued, “I get out the car and I’m looking for the keys and somebody yelled and she yells out her door, “Help, he’s trying to kill me.””
Rihanna had hid the keys underneath herself, as the passer by called the police. After that, everything culminated in the infamous domestic violence case and the power couple breaking up.
Rihanna spoke of the incident in 2012 on Oprah, “I lost my best friend – like everything I knew switched in a night, and I couldn’t control that. So, I had to deal with that and that’s not easy for me to understand, interpret and it’s not easy to interpret on camera, not with the world watching.”
So there you have it! Sometimes things go wrong, sometimes women overreact, and sometimes men and women can’t be together. Regardless of who’s right and who’s wrong, domestic violence is a horrible, horrible thing, and when alcohol, jealousy and irrational actions get mixed into it, the situation can turn into explosive, and the relationship toxic. What was once a beautiful couple, now ceases to exist. Bare that in mind, people.
Finally after 8 whole years, Chris Brown has spoken about his side of the incident. What remains to be seen is whether or not Rihanna will come out and tell a different story now, or hold her silence.
In 2009, Chris plead guilty to one felony assault charge and served probation for his crime. It’s sad when couples relationships deteriorate in this way, and we expect that somewhere deep down inside, they wish that night would have turned out differently.
Here below you can check out the trailer of the documentary and also the first part of the docufilm.
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Brainstain, over and out!
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Watch the first part of the Documentary right here below